it's time

(image courtesy of starpulse.com)

Nick and I saw The Informant! this weekend (the exclamation point is in the official title y'all) with the very talented Matt Damon and the lady who plays his wife who has been in Ever After, Coyote Ugly, Sweet Home Alabama, Shattered Glass, Flags of Our Fathers, Two and a Half Men (grr), Away We Go, and most recently, an episode of It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia.

Whew. Homegirl's been in alot of stuff. But I have to admit, that up until 5 minutes ago Nick and I referred to her as, "Marcy from The Shield". She was in like 2 episodes as an unforgettable sadistic accomplice to murder who pulled one over on Dutch, the best detective in Farmington. Including Vic Mackey. You heard me.

Everyone's got some actor or actress that comes up in so many things, but for some reason their name WILL NOT stick in their brains. So while watching the Emmy's tonight, I decided that it's time. It's time to learn her name. We love this girl, we think she's going far...she deserves to be recognized by name, much like the beloved Judy Greer, whose name we learned about 6 months ago. So without further ado...I give you Melanie Lynskey!

I looked her up on imdb.com and found out she is married to a McPoyle on Always Sunny! And she's from New Zealand! How about that...

I just realized that if she ever googles her name, my blog will come up. Hi Melanie! We loved you as Marcy in the Shield, although that scene where your husband was beating that girl in the trunk while you watched in the mirror scared the shit out of me! We're rooting for your success! Send some celebrity blog traffic my way!

the invalidator strikes again

He begged me not to tell this story because it makes him sound like a jerk, but I swear it was just so funny and he just totally proved my point that he does indeed invalidate me at every turn.

We're snuggling on the couch, Nick's arm is around my shoulder. And when he removes it, my hair gets tangled up in the crook of his arm which he removed with a little pull. Here's what happened after that...word for word.

Me: Ouch! Careful!
Him: That didn't hurt! You're tough! (he said later this was meant to be a compliment. okay.)
Me: You see what I mean? You always invalidate me! You need to apologize for pulling my hair!
Him: I'm sorry if you got hurt. (ooh, this is where the Invalidator shines! A passive-aggressive apology. Some other examples include, "I'm sorry your feelings got hurt" or "I'm sorry if you thought I meant it that way" or my favorite, "I'm sorry you feel that way.") To his credit, Nick rarely gives these kinds of apologies anymore, and not just because I busted his balls on the blog about it.
Me: No, that apology sucks. I want to hear, "You were right and I was wrong."
Him: Fuck off.

I swear I laughed so hard for so long, I forgot what we were talking about. He wins again! I know to people who are reading this and don't us may think Nick is a jerk, especially for dropping the f bomb on me. But in a weird twisted way, calling each other horrible names and using vulgar language is how we show love for each other because it usually makes us laugh. I'm positive our kid's first word is going to be something really offensive.

Summer Movie Guide Part 2

Star Trek - done.
Terminator Salvation - done.
Night at the Museum - wasn't planning on it, but done.
Up
Land of the Lost - done.
Away We Go - done. loved it.
The Hangover
Food Inc.
My Sister's Keeper
Public Enemies (side note...did anyone read the Vanity Fair with Johnny Depp on the cover? mmm...)- done.
HARRY POTTER - done and done. and done.
500 Days of Summer
Funny People
Adam
Julie and Julia
Paper Heart
Taking Woodstock
Post Grad
The Boat That Rocked
The Time Traveler's Wife

Harry Potter was very very good. The more I think about it, the less impressed I am with it. But I think I'm mourning the loss of the movies that could have been. I understand the movies can't include every detail, but I still wish they could. I'm also disappointed with the Harry/Ginny story. They have as much chemistry as...two people who don't like each other very much. (it's very late) Harry and Hermione are crackling with sexual tension in this movie and there was nothing doing with her and Ron, I don't care how much they try to manufacture it.

I'm looking forward to the last two movies, but also dreading them, because I know they will have to leave alot of it out, and I don't think I could bear it.

Man, sometimes I surprise myself by how nerdy I have become.

do you validate?

If I had to pick a superhero name for Nick, it would be the Invalidator.

Luckily (or unluckily, I can't tell which, yet), Nick usually only invalidates ME. He finds dozens of ways every day to disagree with me, or try to discredit me, or try to correct me that it has moved from irritating to funny (funny, in the way you have to laugh to keep from crying all the time.)

Let me give you an example: Nick mentioned in passing that we needed to get the non-odor trash bags in case we have to throw our clothes into trash bags for the move and we don't want our clothes smelling like vanilla or whatever. I agree. Then we go to the store. We roll up to the trash bag aisle and I grab the non-odor bags and say, “Babe, here are the odor free bags.” And he says, “It doesn't matter. We can get the other kind.”

Huh? What? Why do you make it a huge deal to get a certain kind of trash bag only to say we don't need it when I remind you to get it?

Here's another story: My whole life, I kept my ketchup in the fridge. I don't know why, I just did. Then Nick moved in with me and told me I was an idiot for keeping it in the fridge because who wants ice cold ketchup on hot fries? Made sense to me so I started leaving it on the shelf. We lived happily for awhile until I ate some organic ketchup at room temperature and it was a little funky. I just figured it was a fluke because we'd had it too long. I mentioned to Nick that I thought the ketchup was going bad and he gave a long-suffering sigh, sent me a withering look and said “It's fiiiiiiiine.” (The Invalidator makes sure you know when you are being ridiculous, even if you're not) So I shrug my shoulders and quit eating from that bottle of ketchup and wait until we start a new one.

Fast forward several months: I'm looking for the ketchup and to my irritation and surprise, I find it in the FRIDGE. I didn't put it there, that's for sure. So I ask Nick, “Why is the ketchup in the fridge? I thought you liked it at room temperature?” He looks at me for a minute then says, “Well the last bottle we had tasted weird so I decided to keep ketchup in the fridge.”

Scroll back up to the previous paragraph.
“...I mentioned to Nick that I thought the ketchup was going bad and he gave a long-suffering sigh, sent me a withering look and said “It's fiiiiiiiine.”

WHY COULDN'T HE HAVE JUST VALIDATED MY CONCERN ABOUT THE FREAKING KETCHUP GOING BAD?!

WHY DOES HE JUST WANT TO STORE THE KETCHUP IN THE OPPOSITE PLACE I WANT TO STORE IT?!

Last month, The Invalidator and I were in Dallas visiting my dad, brother and his fiancee. We were talking about how couples fight in different ways and how even if people lose their tempers with each other, they can still have productive conversations as long as what they are saying influences the other one. I was quick to point out Nick's Invalidating tendencies and everyone laughed appreciatively and then I asked Tyler and Sandy about how they fight with each other. Sandy said they say what they need to, retreat to their respective corners and then talk about it later. Dad said that makes them a Validating Couple. Nick looks at them through narrowed eyes and said “That's make you my nemesis.”

Sigh. I'm doomed to be in love with The Invalidator forever, with jokes like that. Even if he tries to make me feel like I'm high maintenance for not wanting to eat rotten food.

Summer Movie Guide

Here's the ones I'm planning on seeing this summer. Some of them may not come out in OKC, so we'll have to see them in Dallas or by other means...

Star Trek - done.
Terminator Salvation - done.
Night at the Museum - wasn't planning on it, but done.
Up
Land of the Lost - done.
Away We Go
The Hangover
Food Inc.
My Sister's Keeper
Public Enemies (side note...did anyone read the Vanity Fair with Johnny Depp on the cover? mmm...)
HARRY POTTER
500 Days of Summer
Funny People
Adam
Julie and Julia
Paper Heart
Taking Woodstock
Post Grad
The Boat That Rocked
The Time Traveler's Wife

Undecideds:
Transformers 2 - probably not as I hated the first one.
Inglorious Bastards - meh.


What are you planning on seeing this summer?

will you marry me?

i love this kid!

let me brag a bit...

...on my cute husband. He has turned into a very talented photographer, although he doesn't believe me when I tell him so. Go HERE to prove me right and to see pictures of the world's cutest baby.

Thank you.